Meltdowns are hard.
Meltdowns, as your child gets older and into their teens and adulthood, are extremely hard.
You want to keep them safe, keep yourself safe, and everything around you safe.
Eli has behavioral issues that just take over at times. His aggression seems to stem from his Anxiety and then not being able to express himself and communicate.
So we constantly talk and communicate.
By repeating and communicating over and over again, it helps to stick with Eli. You will notice by the end of our chat, Eli was able to answer a few things he couldn’t before. You could also tell he was quite sick of me… I think I saw an eye roll at one point lol!
For us, it is always better to use calming techniques first and then discuss the situation later.
Then, I will recreate what the trigger was in a controlled situation to help Eli get past it, and grow from it so it isn’t an issue in the future.
When Eli was little, I couldn’t talk to him… there was a huge communication barrier. He would just scream. So I would keep it short and pretty much go straight into the exercises.
There was a time I didn’t think any of it was working, but I just kept doing it.
What could I possibly lose? Nothing.
What could I possibly gain? Everything.